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Advantages It could work.

Disadvantages It could not work.

In the past, I have had a long distance relationship that I would just like to use as my own example for writing this review. It was with an individual who was about two orthree years older than me, and although the distance wasn't too great for us to be apart it still was far enough for us to have to really work at it.

OK, so I live in Plymouth and the other person lived about fifteen miles the other side of Exeter from where I live - so all in all, the distance was about sixty miles give or take a footstep or two. However with me at the time doing shift work as a nurse at my local hospital and them working full time during the week as a teacher in their local primary school, it was not always that easy to meet up for some quality time on our own.

But with this in mind, we would talk; text, or even e-mail on a daily basis at least and so we were able to keep in touch in other ways if we were not able to meet in the flesh as it were. And so this helped to ease the situation a little bit more, knowing that although we were not able to physically meet we could still keep in touch in other various ways and means.

However we found after a while that through the struggling and trying to keep in touch, we were starting to fall out of love with one another - of course, the different work settings didn't really help either as not only were they stressful enough but owing to working different hours we were finding that it could almost be up to three or four weeks at a time before we could even see one another. And so sadly this story didn't really have that much of a happy ending as we parted company, although we do still keep in touch on occasions as friends.

But that is not to say that the same thing won't happen for other people, as others may find that they can continue on in a long distance relationship with no other issues. Of course there is the whole area and issue of trusting them to remainfaithful to you, but of course if you truly love someone then this should automatically come in to it. You can make your relationship work just as much as two people who live in the same town, by you both putting in the same amount of time and effort to the relationship.

And so to conclude, I would just like to pick up on that final point by saying that your long distance relationship is what you and your partner make of it. If you want it to work out then you will work at it, as we tried to do - but of course, life got in the way of it and we had to sadly split up. But who knows, things may have worked out differently for us - it was just that neither of us could find work closer to where the other one was living to at the time, and trust me we tried!

But if you want a relationship to work that is a long distance one, then you will have to make sure that both sides work at it. After all, any relationship needs a bit of give or take in it - and the more that the both of you will put in to it, then the more that you will both get out of it. But if not, then prepare to be somewhat disheartened.

Thanks for reading!

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