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I know this is not really an opinion on anything, I just needed a sounding board to voice my feelings.
I broke my own heart today and I am not sure why. Today is the first day I have not driven my child to school since we have lived here in England. My son has started a new school and it about 7- 9 miles away, not far, but a booger to get there and worse to find parking once there. After the first week , he was begging me to let him ride the bus, or take a taxi…..I just laughed.
Well apparently that’s part of the problem….I laugh..a lot..and loudly. I am different from a lot of the mom’s on the play ground….I stand out. My hair ( which I try to tame! Clips, gels , scrunches, blow drying straight) is pretty much a throw back to 80’s big hair…it’s long Curly(unruly) and I am not afraid of colour. OH…and I have a ‘’round’’ butt…mustn’t forget that!
My child has been taking grief over my apparent short comings……Now I have assured my child,that nothing anybody says like that will hurt my feelings. My feelings were hurt with the thought I was an embarrassment to my child (though I did not let him know this). I asked my son if this was the case and he looked at me with blank comprehension, then assured me he was not ashamed of me…he was mad at the others.
I have seen the boy who (in the past) has teased Zack….and he is ½ my son’s size! My Zack is the youngest in his class, but the tallest. The main bully and I am loath to call her this is a beautiful little girl, who has come up to me and said things like….”When are you going back to Texas?”….”My mum said only Tarts, wear red lipstick” (Uh, you guessed it I wear red lipstick) Charming.
Sooooo, My husband started taking and picking up my son…….and he…well they started Calling him ‘Gay’ or ‘wanker’ ……..My husband always wears a suit ….and it is not very ‘’approachable’’ looking, my son adores his step father and wants to be a scientist just like him.
We talked to the Head teacher, because it was getting to the point my son, was not able to sleep….and when he did he had nightmares. We all came to the conclusion that something had to be done…..Zack was called into the office with us and there we found out that apparently his teacher inadvertently would cause the other children to laugh at Zack, because she could not understand him…he “talked funny”
I have tried everything I can to be a good parent to my child, to offer unconditional love, support, boundaries…you name it. But before you start thinking I am an over protective worry wart, I am not...I have always believed children bebefit from trying to learn to sort things out themselves.
My husband, the school and I agreed to let my son come to school in a taxi…….It has broken my heart, but if it’s the best for Zack I will do it. My husband has tried to be supportive, and the plus side should be I now have more time to prepare for my classes…..but instead I am writing this. Maybe I am taking this all to seriously, maybe I am over reacting. My son has had a lot of heart ache in his life, from leaving the only home he knew, his beloved 'mawmaw' and 'pawpaw' (my parents) to be forced by court order (which I have continually fought) to spend summers with his biological father in Texas.
When I saw my little boy (my baby) get into the back of the taxi,looking out the window (he had been running the gambit of feeling this morning, happy, scared,excited,so on) and waving at me and using sign language to say he loved me…I felt my heart break…just a little.
I hope I have not bored you witless…….thanks for reading.
I have to say that there was nothing boring about what you wrote. My daughter has been subjected to bullying for a number of years, due to the fact that she only has one ear, I personaly think that the more people read about actual personal accounts of bullying especialy as well written as yours is,the more chance we have of stamping out this very nasty problem.
OMG, that is just bullying! I am so sorry you and your family have been subjected to the narrow mindedness of stupid individuals. I send you all a huge hug xxx
Stacee, this is so sad. I see you wrote it a few weeks ago; I sincerely hope that things have improved for you and your son. All the best, as always - Catherine
02.05.2003 01:33
I have to say that there was nothing boring about what you wrote. My daughter has been subjected to bullying for a number of years, due to the fact that she only has one ear, I personaly think that the more people read about actual personal accounts of bullying especialy as well written as yours is,the more chance we have of stamping out this very nasty problem.
03.04.2003 14:45
OMG, that is just bullying! I am so sorry you and your family have been subjected to the narrow mindedness of stupid individuals. I send you all a huge hug xxx
28.03.2003 15:10
Stacee, this is so sad. I see you wrote it a few weeks ago; I sincerely hope that things have improved for you and your son. All the best, as always - Catherine