Post Natal Depression.
A subject I never thought I'd find myself writing a review about.
I still don't really know what happened to me, it was never really fully explained, but what a bloody nightmare this illness is, for every poor soul concerned it happens to, including my ex-husband.
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Advantages: None, nothing, nowt Disadvantages: you can hurt people you love.
Post Natal Depression.
A subject I never thought I'd find myself writing a review about.
I still don't really know what happened to me, it was never really fully explained, but what a bloody nightmare this illness is, for every poor soul concerned it happens to, including my ex-husband.
The story began many years ago, I had been with my husband since the age of twelve, what started out as a childhood romance blossomed ... ...couldn't of been better.
Both of us were in full time employment and earning good wages, we had a mortgage which was easily affordable, a fully paid up car each and no other money worries, an excellent family on both sides, and a big selection of friends and a full social life.
The pregnancy wasn't a mistakes or error, we planed it, and spent our time preparing well, decorating the room, and buying all the things we needed for ... more
Post Natal Depression.
A subject I never thought I'd find myself writing a review about. I still don't really know what happened to me, it was never really fully explained, but what a bloody nightmare this illness is, for every poor soul concerned it happens to, including my ex-husband.
The story began many years ago, I had been with my husband since the age of twelve, what started out as a childhood romance blossomed into our adulthood, we were totally in love and life couldn't of been better. Both of us were in full time employment and earning good wages, we had a mortgage which was easily affordable, a fully paid up car each and no other money worries, an excellent family on both sides, and a big selection of friends and a full social life.
The pregnancy wasn't a mistakes or error, we planed it, and spent our time preparing well, decorating the room, and buying all the things we needed for baby, this was our child and it would want for nothing, we had both had an harsh up bringing, and didn't want this for our child, but honestly, there was no stress at all, in fact it was a very enjoyable time.
We made all the usual visits to the hospital, and all went well, in fact the Birth itself couldn't of gone smoother, we were so happy. In fact we had such a wonderful child, we decided to go away for a few days to have a break from everyone and get to know our child, still no problems. We were walking along the sea front, it was a beautiful sunny day, when we spotted an ice cream van, my husband asked if I wanted an ice cream, but instead of saying yes please and smiling, For No apparent reason I told him to F##K OFF, I really don't know why, he asked me what was the matter, but I felt really angry towards him, and stormed off back to the caravan, again I cannot explain why, but in no time at all, I was back to my normal self, I apologised and said I'm not sure why I had said it.
Things however started to get worse as time went by, and I really had to disguise this pent up anger I kept getting towards my husband, I loved him to bits, and he did everything for me I wanted, in fact he was the perfect husband, but even this annoyed me.
I turned into a real slob, I couldn't be bothered in going out, moaned at everything, and everyone, our beautiful home was becoming a wreck, my husband had built a beautiful fire hearth and surround for us, and I smashed it up whilst he was at work, then even lied about it, and said we had a tremor and it had cracked up, he told me some time later he never believed that story, I was even throwing baby's dirty nappies through the back window onto the garden, as I couldn't be bothered to put them in the bin.
Even worse I became increasingly aggressive towards my husband, I would start stupid rows, over anything, and would even hit him, in all fairness, he never ever hit me back, he would just protect himself as best he could until the rage passed, and then he would hug me and tell me he loved me, this felt great, but at the same time, made my rage worse, I wanted him to hit me, and shout back etc, his being nice was just getting on my nerves.
I packed my bags and left on several occasions, but always came back, we did still have some good times, whilst all this was going on, and I even wanted another child, and with a bit of persuasion and not taking my pill, this soon happened, and I gave birth to our Daughter, but in no time at all, I was back to my evil ways, and even began to dislike the kids although luckily I was never violent towards them, my poor husband bore the full brunt of it all.
Three years had passed by, and I had treated this man so badly, but I didn't care, I even found myself beginning to look elsewhere, and eventually found some one, My husband told me, he would never leave me, unless I asked him to, the next day I asked him to go, he was broken hearted, but never flinched or caused a fuss, he just packed his bags and started to leave, all of a sudden I was devastated and felt a massive overwhelming feeling of sadness, I began to cry my eyes out, and knelt on the floor, he picked me up and told me it was okay, but my mood changed instantly and again I was full of anger and told him to get out.
The following few months were a total blur, he turned up every other day, to see the kids, and took them out, In a strange way I felt he hadn't really gone. It was only some time later, I spotted another woman in the car when he dropped the kids off, the next time, he came alone, I went crazy, I smashed his car up,, and tried to kill him, alls he did was stand there, somebody phoned the police, but he pressed no charges, that night I sat there and cried my eyes out, floods of tears ran down my face, I telephoned my sisters to come over, I didn't know what was happening, the next day a doctor was called out to see me, and he said I was suffering from a massive bout of depression.
I was put on antidepressants, but to be honest, it was such a long time ago I cannot remember what pills they were, But they started to work quite quickly, the last three years came flooding back to me, over the days, like a film flash back, this couldn't have been me? I couldn't believe it, Once things started to go right, all my emotions quickly reverted back to normal, it was unbelievable.
But then I had to face reality to what else had happened, I had lost my husband, my best friend and soul mate.
We did try again some time later, but what we had, was now lost forever, and a divorce soon loomed. I am again some 20 years later happily married to another great man, but my ex still has a massive place in my heart.
It's just a real pity the Nobody picked up any signs of what was happening, my god were we all blind, or just ignorant of the facts? I've got no real answers for you. Accept it's a fact, this does happen, even to the people that have everything going for them.
So the advise is not just for the person suffering from Post Natal Depression, its for every member of the Family, take note of changes, mood swings, rage, anger, unable to sleep basically anything you don't normally expect from the person going through this shit. It can mean a world of difference to their lives.
I don't know if this has been any help to anyone, but it gave me a chance to get some of it of my chest, and if the ex ever reads it. I'm So Sorry. X.
Post Natal Depression, or otherwise known as PND for short is a terrible thing for anybody to suffer. All people suffer this in different ways there is no common symptom to look for, as with depression everybody suffers it differently. Post Natal Depression is a depression women can suffer after having a baby. I think the majority of mothers have the 'baby blues' after having their baby anyway. But there is so many emotions to comprehend when having ... ...to cope with. As with any sort of depression there are different levels you can suffer it at, but there is no need to think you are on your own with it or feel guilty as it is quite common unfortunately as around 1 in 10 women suffer with it. There is no determined cause of PND but it could be many reasons, like I said the emotions and feelings you have to deal with having a baby are plenty, your hormone levels drop tremendously, and you have to ...
xnawtyxshawtyx 26.03.2009
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Advantages: none Disadvantages: miss so much of your baby's life
I had Post Natal Depression for nearly 12 months after I gave birth to Charlotte and it took me nearly 18 months to realise what had happened.
My waters broke at 7:30am Christmas Eve morning 1996. I was so excited - at last Maud was coming. I was convinced I would be cuddling my little bubba before the day was out. I got to the hospital at about 8:30am and was examined, nothing doing and I was put on the labour ward. I was there all day with no ... ...I went into labour. Looking back I started to get mild contractions, but I freaked. I was so scared. The midwife suggested pethedine, which I gladly accepted and everything went downhill from there. I finally had an epidural at 6.30am after what seemed a lifetime of intense pain. I didn’t give birth until 1.52pm, they had to use venteuse to pull her out and she came into the world with a ‘cone head’. A really shitty experience and even now my opinion ...
aflynn_01 11.07.2002
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Advantages: The strength gained when you come out the other end Disadvantages: Going into the tunnel at the beginning
When I had my daughter in 1970 postnatal depression was not highlighted as it is today as everything was just put down to the "Baby Blues"
This was long before Esther Ranzen had it and started her campaign to help sufferers of this illness.
I would describe myself way back then as a complete perfectionist. Everything had to be in it's place and organised to the nth degree.
Most of our friends had babies and I used to criticise their homes when ... ...horses being aired and the house generally looking untidy, I thought when I start my family I won't ever be like that.
Well after being married for six years we decided the time was right for us to bring a child into the world and I was so excited when I found myself pregnant for the first time.
I didn't have an easy pregnancy and was sick for most of the nine months but I didn't mind as at the end of it I was going to have a beautiful baby.
We ...
lona 15.11.2007
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Advantages: I love having my family Disadvantages: PND is the worst kind of hell you can imagine
***See update at the end of this opinion***
I have been here a while now, and have got to know a few people and you seem, on the whole, a kind and non-judgemental lot. So maybe it is time for my big confession. OK. Here goes. Hi, my name is Allie and I suffer from postnatal depression.
Yes, it's official! I am a crazy woman! I take regular medication for a mental problem (there are many of you who probably are not surprised at all!) But I do not ... ...The term "mental illness" in connection with PND is in truth a misnomer. I suffer from a physical illness - an imbalance of a brain chemical (serotonin), brought on by the physical rigours of childbirth, and I take medication to correct it - simple as that.
What is a bit unusual about my case is that my daughter is five years old. I suffered in silence for FIVE YEARS, thinking I was going crazy, not realising what was happening to me and being too ...
alliecat 24.04.2002 (21.08.2002)
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Advantages: None Disadvantages: Diagnosis not easily accepted
How do you know if you’re suffering from Post Natal Depression except that you’re told you are? After reading several ops in this category, I felt I had to contribute myself because I have a predicament and I feel the need to share it with you, if for nothing else, just for my own sanity.
After the birth of Georgina (DOB 15/04/01), yes I was weepy, but that was because I was still getting over the sheer shock of all that I had gone through ... ...of my pregnancy, I had pre-eclampsia and spent three weeks in hospital. I then had to be induced at 37 weeks, as the baby was getting distressed and apparently my life was in danger as well.
I underwent the induction, complete with epidural and constant blood pressure monitoring and gave birth in a totally drug induced state of labour. I wasn’t fully aware of much that was going on around me, until probably 24 hours later. At this point, as ...
aliclarkson 20.09.2001
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