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Community Level 5post-it-note

post-it-note

Breaking up is hard to do.

AdvantagesTheres a new life for you somewhere

DisadvantagesLetting go of an old life is hard

"It doesn't matter how it happens, you can know its coming or not, it doesn't matter if you tried to do it but couldn't quite go through with it, it doesn't matter if it's a total shock - there is nothing like that moment of "I've been thinking.." followed by however its said, but essentially words meaning we need to break up. For the first week, or day, or hour (if you are really tough!) there's nothing you can do to make it better. Nothing. You ..." Read review
14.02.2006

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Community Level 7Elffriend

Elffriend

No Judgement

AdvantagesYou tell me

DisadvantagesYou tell me

"I don’t just feel bad, I feel awful. I know this is the wrong category, but right now I just don’t care. The last few days have been a nightmare for me, I’m not looking for sympathy or rating, I just want to say something that tear’s at my heart. Since I have been here I have made so many good friends, some in my COT, others I was yet to add and still more I admired so much. I could have added most of you, but time and Ciao only allows 100. Some ..." Read review
13.10.2004

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Community Level 3nadiawalton

nadiawalton

There IS life after a break up!

AdvantagesFinding your self again amongst the rubble

DisadvantagesThe tears, the heartache and the feeling of being lost

"This is something i wrote in March 2005 to help me get all my feelings out onto paper. I hope this helps other people, only if it only helps them see my opinion and my feelings on break-ups!! A couple of months ago, I started a diary on the Life of a Squaddie Girlfriend. It was something where I could put all my feelings down and maybe one day share it with other people who were in the same boat. This is what will be going on the bottom of that ..." Read review
29.09.2005

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Community Level 3cleanfreak...

cleanfreakmama

Beaten & Starved to Blooming and bountiful

Advantagesself discovery, inner strength and hope

Disadvantagesloathing, starvation and despair

"I thought long and hard about writing this as it happened a long time ago and it does bring back all the memories you don't want. Let me take you back 14 years ago when I was a young single mum of 20 years old , I loved life and even though things had gone really sour with my baby's dad I was still optimistic about the future. I was confident, out going ( even to the point where I cringe to admit that I did the occasional kissogram but in my defence ..." Read review
18.05.2007

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Community Level 5couscous

couscous

Move over Bridget I want to jump on the band wagon

AdvantagesErr i suppose down the line there must be some

DisadvantagesI am now ridget Jones - approaching 30 and single

"...be writing a review on Member Advice for Break Ups and I am not sure I can give any advice but 7 weeks on after having my heart ripped out I am still here and alive and kicking so I must be doing something right. I met Stephen through friends and we were initially just friends. My first impressions of him were not good - small, a bit chunky and totally not my type but as I got to know him I just found myself thinking about him all the time. My ..." Read review
21.06.2004

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Dont get MAD... get EVEN... Review with images

AdvantagesIt will make you feel much much better.

DisadvantagesAfter these...There will be NO chance of getting back together.

"I have decided to offer a word or two of comfort to anyone who has been through a break-up (and, lord knows, I have had my fair share) After a number of nasty break-ups I feel well qualified to give advice and the best advice would be don't get MAD... get EVEN! A little background…my worst relationship and the one that haunts me the most was to the father of my children, an abusive drunkard, who cared nothing for his children or me. So, knowing ..." Read review
20.01.2006

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Community Level 5T21AMY

T21AMY

Breaking up is never easy...

AdvantagesSometimes it is the best thing to do...

DisadvantagesIt hurts...

"5 weeks ago I was planning my wedding. Today I am single. I'd only been engaged for 5 months and the hardest thing is having to explain to people who are still trying to catch up congratulating me / us is that actually we're now not getting married, in fact we're not together at all. So what went wrong and what I have learned from this awful experience that I can share with others ? ♥ > 4 weeks ago ♥ Les and I met through work ..." Read review
30.06.2004

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Community Level 5stoolie74

stoolie74

Sex, violence and beer..it is all in here

AdvantagesFind the new you, drunk, violent, bitter and lacking in personal hygiene

DisadvantagesThis opinion may take longer to read than actually getting over your break up

"...I say, I was a member of the fan club and had a yearly subscription to ‘Denial monthly’, which of course I denied. I decided that either my hearing or memory was at fault, or more promising, that she had not known what she had said. This is a great one for those true acolytes of denial, as from here, I could always fantasise about how difficult I could make it for her to be my girlfriend again and boy, was I going to make her squirm. 3) ..." Read review
27.09.2001

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Community Level 2pbujo

pbujo

thankyou to Christina666

Advantagesthe best thing that ever happened to me

Disadvantagestakes a lot of strength

"I have now decided this story has been told for long enough & have therefore decided to delete it. I know everyone who read it will respect my wishes & wish to thank you all for reading it. Sorry if I have disappointed you! * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Sarah ..." Read review
15.04.2004

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It will get better...

AdvantagesMemories of great times

DisadvantagesAll depends on the people involved

"* Please note, there’s an important update at the end of this review * Gemma Wild’s advice on Break-Ups This is my first op giving ‘advice’ to others on a life experience that I have had myself. I have been in a break-up situation, I'm sure there are many people on this site that have, and at the time I would definitely compare it to hell. Let me start by telling you an experience I had with a guy. * My Experience I was with my [now] ..." Read review
06.11.2003

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One Hell Of A Story You Will Never Forget

AdvantagesI learned from all this.

DisadvantagesIt was a very painful thing to go through.....

" It was after I read several moving ops in this section (most notabely by gemmawild and Kelmisty), that I decided to spill out my story of my breakup with a girl last year. While many people have been in breakups before, this is one that I think is way more complex than others. Of course, I'm not saying this story is more special than any other's because everyone goes through the same amount of pain and recovery. ..." Read review
08.12.2003

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Community Level 5VickyVicks...

VickyVickster

Watching Them Come Apart.

Advantageswell sometimes people are more miserable together than apart.

DisadvantagesAnger,resentment, guilt, bitterness and lots of other nagative things!

"Well first of all I will apologise to you for any spelling/grammar errors in this review. It is going to be difficult enough to write it and I really don’t think I will be able to grit my teeth to read it through. SO if the spell checker doesn’t get it and I don’t get it, you’re going to get it ok? Right well this is not a opinion on a break up of mine but rather on a major one that has effected me, the break up I will be talking about is that ..." Read review
26.07.2004

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Community Level 5Christina666

Christina666

I'd like to be dumped now please ;o(

AdvantagesAt least I still have control of my futre

DisadvantagesI'm not strong enough to cope with this!

"14/04/2004 - update. Thank you to everyone that has sent me kind and supportive messages and comments. It has been done, and its finally over. Bank Holiday Monday I spent 7 hours - until 2am, helping my boyfriend pack up his belongings and ship himself back to his mums. It was hard, I did cry and I even had a few regrets. That is until the last box left and I found myself in my house, on my own, with the freedom to do whatever the hell I wanted. ..." Read review
18.03.2004

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How To Cope With Heartbreak

AdvantagesOnce you've dealt with this, you can deal with anything

DisadvantagesAlmost unbearable pain

"Breaking up from a loving relationship can be the worst experience of your entire life. How you react depends on several factors including your own personality and past experiences as well as the nature of the relationship that has ended. In the worst cases, sufferers of what I will call "heartbreak" for want of a better word can become depressed (clinical, real depression as opposed to the sort you suffer when your football team loses) and even ..." Read review
11.06.2008

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Community Level 5Kelmisty

Kelmisty

I dont love you anymore

AdvantagesYou can find the real you

DisadvantagesWorld seems to fall apart

"Well as a few of you may already know, I've had a pretty bad time of it the last week and one day so far. Due to my now Ex-boyfriend splitting up with me after 4 years of happiness. First I can understand relationships breaking down all the time due to communication breaking down, arguments etc etc, but when it happens to you and you haven’t even been told that is the way your other half feels, or has been thinking, its awful! Anyway let me ..." Read review
03.11.2003

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