Member Advice on Break-ups

It doesn't matter how it happens, you can know its coming or not, it doesn't matter if you tried to do it but couldn't quite go through with it, it doesn't matter if it's a total shock - there is nothing like that moment of "I've been thinking.." followed by however its said, but essentially words meaning we need to break up. For the first week, or day, or hour (if you are really tough!) there's nothing you can do to make it better. Nothing. You ...
...Just ride that out, a different place is just around the corner. What I wish I had've done.. The hardest thing in the world is not contacting them. And the easiest thing in the world is making an excuse for contacting them. "But he has my book and I desperately need it" etc etc. On several occasions I did contact him, and we saw each other a few times and each time I was so confused. Why is he being so rude? Why is he being so nice? The answer is ...

post-it-note 14.02.2006 · Read full review
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I don’t just feel bad, I feel awful. I know this is the wrong category, but right now I just don’t care. The last few days have been a nightmare for me, I’m not looking for sympathy or rating, I just want to say something that tear’s at my heart. Since I have been here I have made so many good friends, some in my COT, others I was yet to add and still more I admired so much. I could have added most of you, but time and Ciao only allows 100. Some ...
...depression and kept me going as a window to a world I could not enter. You know I am ill, but really don’t know how ill I am. My health is very poor and I am at constant risk of a heart attack, I get angina pains but cope with them. Each night, on my own, I don’t know if I will wake up the next day. Scary? Yes. But this is not about me; it is about friendship, which I have covered before. On Ciao I found a community of people that accepted me for ...

Elffriend 13.10.2004 · Read full review
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This is something i wrote in March 2005 to help me get all my feelings out onto paper. I hope this helps other people, only if it only helps them see my opinion and my feelings on break-ups!! A couple of months ago, I started a diary on the Life of a Squaddie Girlfriend. It was something where I could put all my feelings down and maybe one day share it with other people who were in the same boat. This is what will be going on the bottom of that ...
...after a break-up! I don't just mean breaking up from the army, but any break up. Its always hard, especially when you put all your trust and love into one human being, only to have it thrown back in your face when you least expect it. It is hard, being alone after a long time being with someone who you thought was your soul mate, but being alone isn't such a bad thing when you get used to it. You get used to waking up on your own, not calling or ...

nadiawalton 29.09.2005 (09.12.2005) · Read full review
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I thought long and hard about writing this as it happened a long time ago and it does bring back all the memories you don't want. Let me take you back 14 years ago when I was a young single mum of 20 years old , I loved life and even though things had gone really sour with my baby's dad I was still optimistic about the future. I was confident, out going ( even to the point where I cringe to admit that I did the occasional kissogram but in my defence ...
...buy the latest pram for my beautiful baby ), had lots of friends and generally alot going for me. When I met what I then thought was the one for me, dark and dangerously attractive, full of tattoos (which I love) and a similar twisted sense of humour like my own. Lets call him John (no slur against anyone called john just first thing that came into my head), as you do when you are young you take everything at warp speed so before I knew it he had ...

cleanfreakmama 18.05.2007 · Read full review
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...be writing a review on Member Advice for Break Ups and I am not sure I can give any advice but 7 weeks on after having my heart ripped out I am still here and alive and kicking so I must be doing something right. I met Stephen through friends and we were initially just friends. My first impressions of him were not good - small, a bit chunky and totally not my type but as I got to know him I just found myself thinking about him all the time. My phone ...
...text message was from him, or my email would chime at work and to see it was from him made me smile for literally hours. Eventually after a few drinks in the pub one night I thought I was reading the signals wrong when he leaned over, kissed me and that was it I was smitten. Two years later however I find myself sitting here, at 5am unable to sleep because he's not here any more. Stephen and I never really lived together, he had his own place and ...

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I have decided to offer a word or two of comfort to anyone who has been through a break-up (and, lord knows, I have had my fair share) After a number of nasty break-ups I feel well qualified to give advice and the best advice would be don't get MAD... get EVEN! A little background…my worst relationship and the one that haunts me the most was to the father of my children, an abusive drunkard, who cared nothing for his children or me. So, knowing ...
...a few little treats for my now ex-husband.... Oh how I wish he could read this.... Treat No 1 My husband was very fond of fishing and had decided to go away for a few days fishing to a remote cottage in the highlands of Scotland and had asked me to pack his case, as although he had two arms, he was completely incapable of using them. I packed everything except his socks and underpants which I kept until the coast was clear. Once he was out of the ...

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5 weeks ago I was planning my wedding. Today I am single. I'd only been engaged for 5 months and the hardest thing is having to explain to people who are still trying to catch up congratulating me / us is that actually we're now not getting married, in fact we're not together at all. So what went wrong and what I have learned from this awful experience that I can share with others ? ♥ > 4 weeks ago ♥ Les and I met through work about ...
...and was just going through a divorce that hit him badly. I was there for him as a friend when he needed me most and over a period of time we grew closer and closer until our relationship went from being just good friends to something more. To be honest, with hindsight the first 6 months was rocky to say the least - we'd have a brilliant few weeks then he'd start getting all worried that he'd rushed into a new relationship too quickly and blamed himself ...

T21AMY 30.06.2004 · Read full review
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...I say, I was a member of the fan club and had a yearly subscription to ‘Denial monthly’, which of course I denied. I decided that either my hearing or memory was at fault, or more promising, that she had not known what she had said. This is a great one for those true acolytes of denial, as from here, I could always fantasise about how difficult I could make it for her to be my girlfriend again and boy, was I going to make her squirm. ...
...and turns up, completely uninvited at the most inopportune times. I could sob for my country and the tears flowed like wine at a Bar mitzvah usually at social events, on the bus to lectures, during lectures and once, on the toilet (don’t ask). This is the hardest part of breaking up and can last for months, even a year or so. The dull ache in my stomach stayed for a good six months, an empty feel of loss that followed my every move relentlessly. ...

stoolie74 26.09.2001 · Read full review
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I have now decided this story has been told for long enough & have therefore decided to delete it. I know everyone who read it will respect my wishes & wish to thank you all for reading it. Sorry if I have disappointed you! * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Sarah ...

pbujo 15.04.2004 (19.04.2005) · Read full review
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* Please note, there’s an important update at the end of this review * Gemma Wild’s advice on Break-Ups This is my first op giving ‘advice’ to others on a life experience that I have had myself. I have been in a break-up situation, I'm sure there are many people on this site that have, and at the time I would definitely compare it to hell. Let me start by telling you an experience I had with a guy. * My Experience I was with my [now] ex boyfriend ...
...although I always knew who he was but we had never spoke until then. It was the longest relationship I had ever been in, and he was most definitely my ‘first love’. We got on soo well. He was funny, sexy, smart and always smelled gorgeous. I quickly fell in love with him not just for what was on the outside but for everything inside as well. I had my first ever holiday abroad to Greece with him and we had soo much in common it was untrue. Plus, I ...

gemmawild 06.11.2003 (16.01.2004) · Read full review
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<<<<<<<<>>>>>>>> It was after I read several moving ops in this section (most notabely by gemmawild and Kelmisty), that I decided to spill out my story of my breakup with a girl last year. While many people have been in breakups before, this is one that I think is way more complex than others. Of course, I'm not saying this story is more special than any other's because everyone goes through the same amount of pain and recovery. I ...
...last one just over a year ago. I must have told this story a dozen times, and everyone has pretty much the same reaction to it. In describing myself, I never really dated in high school. In fact, I didn't date someone until my junior year. I wasn't the type of kids who went to parties, got drunk and did drugs like some of the characters you would see in an AMERICAN PIE movie. My life was very reserved, focused on my education and not on making friends. ...

eve6kicksass 08.12.2003 · Read full review
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Well first of all I will apologise to you for any spelling/grammar errors in this review. It is going to be difficult enough to write it and I really don’t think I will be able to grit my teeth to read it through. SO if the spell checker doesn’t get it and I don’t get it, you’re going to get it ok? Right well this is not a opinion on a break up of mine but rather on a major one that has effected me, the break up I will be talking about is that of ...
...a mum and a dad, I don’t remember being aware of anyone in a single parent home till I got to secondary and then I only knew of a small number. As a teenager I could never see my parents splitting up. They were so very happy in their marriage. They smiled and laughed together often, my sister and I would walk in on them kissing quite regularly and they seemed to like being together. I don’t ever remember them arguing and I can only ever remember ...

VickyVickster 26.07.2004 · Read full review
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14/04/2004 - update. Thank you to everyone that has sent me kind and supportive messages and comments. It has been done, and its finally over. Bank Holiday Monday I spent 7 hours - until 2am, helping my boyfriend pack up his belongings and ship himself back to his mums. It was hard, I did cry and I even had a few regrets. That is until the last box left and I found myself in my house, on my own, with the freedom to do whatever the hell I wanted. ...
...finally come off my shoulders. So what for the future? Well, no plans! I have a girlie holiday booked for May, and I have enough family and friends around me to love and support me. What do I need a man for eh! Thank you once again ciao-ers. C x 06/04/2004 - Update So many wonderful Ciao-ers left me supportive messages after the below review, and it helped so much. Certain members gave me advice, which I have followed and continue to do so, and ...

Christina666 18.03.2004 (14.04.2004) · Read full review
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Breaking up from a loving relationship can be the worst experience of your entire life. How you react depends on several factors including your own personality and past experiences as well as the nature of the relationship that has ended. In the worst cases, sufferers of what I will call "heartbreak" for want of a better word can become depressed (clinical, real depression as opposed to the sort you suffer when your football team loses) and even ...
...it's too much; the weight of the pain is too great for them to carry and they break down. Some people will only suffer in this way for a matter of days; others may take years to get themselves back to normal. Some people never make it. It is common for people who are going through this trauma to believe that no-one else in the history of the world has ever felt as desperately sad as they do. This leads to a feeling of isolation which exacerbates ...

MCFruitbat 11.06.2008 (30.09.2008) · Read full review
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Well as a few of you may already know, I've had a pretty bad time of it the last week and one day so far. Due to my now Ex-boyfriend splitting up with me after 4 years of happiness. First I can understand relationships breaking down all the time due to communication breaking down, arguments etc etc, but when it happens to you and you haven’t even been told that is the way your other half feels, or has been thinking, its awful! Anyway let me tell ...
...Over the two weeks before we had argued twice and I think that’s the most we'd ever argued over 4 years. So Thursday was like any normal day, I was rushing around doing stuff and stopped to check my emails. Msn Messenger, up comes my boyfriend....hello I say, he says "we need to talk". Usually when he says this it turns out to be nothing serious. He proceeds, "we aren’t working anymore, I want to split up with you" WHAT!!!! YOU WHAT???? my expression ...

Kelmisty 03.11.2003 (29.02.2004) · Read full review
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