Member Advice on Marriage

...always being the loyal COT member I would like to be. How many celebrations reviews and news I have missed? I don't know but I do know it's a lot. I want to say to all those in my COT and to all those who once had me in their prayers and thoughts - a huge thankyou. We really really NEED those prayers at this time... Wherever I am I still think fondly of each of you - I think often of you... if I have ignored you come and go from you it's not (or ...
...when I concentrate on the task in hand. life has to go on to other things besides Ciao ... As some of you know, I've been a 22 year carer to my husband a sufferer of 'Bi-polar disorder.' As I type this he has been without sleep rest and food for 5 days. He is under heavy sedation with a terrible insiduous madness. My life is fairly different to "the norm"- my priorities- maybe different,- and ok I've got to be strong and get on with things, Life ...

christina44 24.01.2004 (09.05.2007) · Read full review
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The story goes that a man was getting married to a very wealthy woman when the ceremony was disrupted by a commotion at the back of the hall. It appeared that a couple of women walked in and claimed they were already married to the chap. The registrar asked the man if this was the case whereupon the man affirmed that it was but that it was his right to marry the rich woman standing beside him as well. The registrar asked him how this could be the ...
...the preacher said I could have 4 better, 4 worse, 4 richer and 4 poorer!" LOL Yes, it is a lame joke at the man's expense, but I for one do not see much difference between his attitude towards marriage and the attitude that seems to be more and more prevalent in our society - a society which sadly has become quite promiscuous and greatly lacking in true love and commitment. When I took my girlfriend's hand in mine and asked if she would be my wife, ...

UKRushbrook 14.12.2006 · Read full review
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The Definition of Marriage Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged by a variety of ways, depending on the culture or demographic. Such a union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is usually called a wedding and the marital structure created is known as wedlock. ...
...is at an all time low although the media says that marriage remains the most stable environment for bringing up children and unmarried couples are 6 and a half times more likely to split once a child is born............................Why is this? Most people don't really care about stats when deciding to marry or not so it must be the attitudes of people that live together, ie they don't see it as a permanent thing. Apparently a child of a married ...

rojm 24.09.2009 (25.09.2009) · Read full review
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A year ago I married for the first time at the tender age of 31. It was a big white wedding with all the trimmings and in realistic terms nothing in my life actually changed. I still felt it was a commitment which I needed to make before starting a family. Both Dave and I felt the need to commit to each other and so marriage was right for us. ~~~ What is Marriage? ~~~ "Marriage is an Institution - Who wants to live in an institution?" An old joke, ...
...in the Encyclopedia Britannica is as follows. "a legally and socially sanctioned union between one or more husbands and one or more wives that accords status to their offspring and is regulated by laws, rules, customs, beliefs, and attitudes that prescribe the rights and duties of the partners. The universality of marriage within different societies and cultures is attributed to the many basic social and personal functions for which it provides ...

KathrynE 13.07.2001 · Read full review
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The can is open and the worms are out…..on your marks….get set….GO! Anyone who has read my profile will know that I got married about three months ago. The last three months have been very different and when you get to the bottom of this piece I hope that you will see why. Co-habitation seems to be the norm these days (makes me sound like a 60 year old!) and it is not only socially acceptable to co-habit before marriage - it is ...
...had all the usual questions as to whether I enjoyed my honeymoon and what married life was like. To the latter question I always answered "it's great but very different!". "Oh," would come the response, "why?"… and then I would explain. My husband and I did things the old-fashioned way. He had his own place but I lived at home with my parents until we were married. The closest I got to moving in before hand was to have a brush, hairdryer ...

CareBear 09.07.2001 · Read full review
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I don't know how relevant this review is to the category 'Advice on Marriage', but as I've been there, done that, and in fact am still doing it nearly 27 years later, I feel well qualified (some would say over-qualified) in pontificating about the subject. But I'm not going to. Instead, I'm going to tell you a love story. Anyway, here goes........ When I was around 10 my family up and moved house. As you can imagine when you move to a new area, ...
...kids. One scruffy, snotty-nosed, skint-kneed, freckle-faced, little tom-boy in particular made a complete pest of herself, following me around and generally annoying me. As the years passed, I was never overly friendly with this girl, we'd just say hello in the passing etc. I did, however take a bit more interest as various bumps and curves started making appearances on her person. But, as a young lad experiencing the growth-spurts of puberty, I ...

proxam 03.05.2003 · Read full review
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Birth, marriage and death are considered as big events universally. Each event has its own various spiritual meanings. Though my marriage’s age (just four years) is not old enough, in this chance I would like to share my opinion of a marriage, and hope that the terms “separate” and “divorce” can be discarded from the readers’ “dictionary”. The first bridegroom and bride in the world Can you guess who the first bridegroom and bride in the world? ...
...this opinion. They are really blessed by God! How happy they were! I am sure you have known the answer. If you believe in God, you must believe that a marriage is sacred. Not only the bridegroom, the bride, the parents, the relatives are involved, but also God. Don’t be boring and please remember, I am not a preacher, I am only a CIAOer and trying to apply my point of view by showing the truth. Do you want the truth? Why must get married Do you ...

djohan 26.09.2001 · Read full review
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Sadly, this isn’t original, but it contains more than a grain of truth and may just possibly resonate with some Ciao members! 1. The FEMALE always makes THE RULES. 2. THE RULES are subject to change at any time without prior notice. 3. No MALE can possibly know all THE RULES. 4. If the FEMALE suspects that the MALE knows all THE RULES she must immediately change some or all of THE RULES. 5. The FEMALE is never wrong. 6. If the FEMALE is wrong ...
...result of something the MALE said or did. 7. The MALE must apologise for said misunderstanding. 8. The MALE is always wrong. 9. The MALE may be right if he agrees with the FEMALE unless she wants him to disagree. 10. The FEMALE may change her mind at any time. 11. The MALE may never change his mind without the written consent of the FEMALE. 12. The FEMALE has every right to be angry or upset at any time. 13. The MALE must remain calm at all ...

robert1 27.10.2003 · Read full review
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Well I thought that I would let you find out a little bit more about me as I haven't written any 'personal' opinions for a while, the last one was on depression quite a long time ago and I am very much recovered now. I got married 2 months ago on October the 6th 2002. The sun shone and it was a glorious day. Unusual weather for October, but that’s what made it all the more special. But one thing about getting married is that you can’t just focus ...
...- far into the future, because hopefully, if you get it right and you work at it, you will be with this person for the rest of your life. The one question that everyone is sure to ask you the days and weeks after your wedding is one you are going to get fed up with very quickly: "So, how's married life?" It’s as if your whole personality has disappeared and you have a big sign on your head saying "I can only talk about being married from now on!" ...

MadeinScotland 06.12.2002 · Read full review
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In a few weeks my hubby and I will have been married for 14 years. Thinking about it I am not sure which one of us deserves a medal most, me for putting up with his snoring and the fact that he leaves his clothes all over the house or him for putting up with my hormones, my temper tantrums and my singing. I think him. Mark and I had a whirlwind courtship. We met in a betting shop in the June of 1989. Mark was a shy, quiet man and if I am honest ...
...shop went out to celebrate a colleagues birthday. There was a guy that worked at the shop who was the 'won't take no for an answer' type and I remember he was giving me a lot of hassle that night. I remember feeling very uncomfortable, standing at the bar and looked around for somewhere to sit. Next thing I knew Mark was at my side and after making it clear to the nuisance that he wasn't welcome he lead me to his table. Like a knight in shining armour ...

MandyMinx 19.09.2003 · Read full review
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I do not want anyone to take this opinion to heart, it is just my personal opinion.(right now that that's sorted I'll begin) I’ll start by saying that I am not married and don’t really care that much about getting married at the moment (if it’s not broke why fix it). I’ve been with my partner now for over 6 years and we have 2 children together, Jake and Ellie. I don’t see the point of marriage much in the 21st century. ...
...took away married tax allowance, what was they thinking of here, there seems know benefit at all from getting married now. I can see how some people would want to get married - to show their commitment and all, but to be honest I don’t think spending lots of money, having a real good booze up and signing your name on a piece of paper shows that you are any more committed them a couple who are not married. (I don’t think so) I have heard ...

misslook 22.07.2001 · Read full review
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...could see my op in member advice on debt at this point, for a bit extra to the story!!!). Also, he was very child like, and if his friends came round for band practise he would get very possessive of them – to the exclusion of me. He had a foul temper, which was never, used toward me but mainly himself, he would fly off in a rage and sulk for hours. An example of this, happened on holiday, we were with the band, and something had happened ...
...our rented cottage in a mood, everyone would try to get him to come round. But in the end people lost interest in his sulk. That holiday meant the end of the band. As we came home early, I said to him to phone the others when we knew they were back, but he would never make the first move. Eventually I got fed up with trying to persuade him to call them. Incidentally, now we have split up, I hear that I am to blame for the band splitting up, as ...

pagan 17.07.2001 · Read full review
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I have read many contrasting opinions on this subject over the last few months and decided that I might put in my two-penneth. I have been married and also co-habited for a long time, so can see this from both points of view. I was married for eight years and immediately on leaving the marriage co-habited for 11 years. In some respects there is very little difference, so is there any point in taking the plunge? It is easy to consider that marriage ...
...is only a piece of paper. I would not agree with either of those views. I believe that the role of marriage has changed significantly over the last 40 odd years. Society has changed almost beyond recognition and marriage, like many other things has changed in order to conform to new sets of values. Whether or not this is a good thing, I am not entirely sure! Originally marriage was there to provide a medium for the secure procreation of children. ...

water-witch 08.10.2002 · Read full review
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Most of you will know, but for those of you that don’t, Fatboy Slim is a multi millionaire DJ who got married to the radio/ tv personality Zoe Ball in August 1999. When asked to donate something recently to a charity auction, he defaced the copy of ‘Hello’ magazine that featured their wedding pics, and scrawled ‘I give it six months’ across the happy couple’s faces. Clever irony or depressing cynicism? Either way, ...
...auction, showing a remarkable foresight. Three years into the marriage and the couple are now having a ‘trial separation’ which I suspect is celeb-speak for having split up. I realise that loads of people here on ciao consider the relationships/ marriages/ hairstyles etc of the nations so-called celebrities to be so much meaningless puff and glitter, but I have to say I hold with the Heat magazine advertising line: the more intelligent ...

ShoppingGirl 28.01.2003 · Read full review
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Do I really believe in that title? Well, yes I do. See I have been in a ‘perfect’ relationship for the last 14 years and at no point did we sign a piece of paper to pledge our undying love to each other, we just pledged that to ourselves, amongst other things but now is not the time nor the place to go into those!! I don’t mean to be flippant at that last comment; it is just how I view life in general, sometimes. I married young ...
...was 17!! Yes we were expecting our first child and unlike a lot of other unfortunate teenagers we had the full support of both sets of parents. My husband-to-be had to get permission to get married from his parents! It wasn’t an idyllic existence, not by any stretch of the imagination but we survived. I was going to say ‘inevitably’ here but I feel that is unfairly lumping all teenage marriages into the same pile but we did ‘inevitably’, ...

kazziebears 17.07.2001 · Read full review
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